Love and my hair, they're all the same, really.

[pphaneuf]

Chatted with a favourite person tonight, caught up on LJ, and now it's damned late, so I'll have to make this telegraphic with my key findings of the weekend.

Love is a rather complicated feeling.

Somehow, a messy hairstyle can be messed up. No, it doesn't improve it.

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[azrhey.livejournal.com]

I disagree. Love is the simplest feeling.

People's values, cultures, morals and other financial considerations are complicated.

All the complications I ever heard about love don't come from the feeling itself but in trying to make it fit into the other preset values.

*shrug*

then again, what do I know?

[pphaneuf.livejournal.com]

Well, I didn't mean to say it was that complicated either. Those things you mentioned are more related to how you'll act upon that feeling, no? And you're bloody right, making it fit in the other preset values often gives rises to those complications...

I was just thinking of this way that this feeling has of reminding us of it's presence. You miss someone, you feel envious or even jealous, etc... It just stays there, in the background, all the time, and throws some other feelings at you when you don't keep it "happy". Most "simple" feelings, they just go through, and then they're gone.

[pphaneuf.livejournal.com]

Oh, the feeling itself is (rather annoyingly, at times) easy to have/keep. Managing to keep that feeling "satisfied" of sorts (not missing the object of your love too much, for example) is the harder part.

It's a somewhat common case, though, for all these times one would have feelings for someone, but that "someone" isn't available or simply doesn't have reciprocating feelings. In those cases, it'd be so much easier to be able to stop that feeling, so it wouldn't hurt, but it stays...

I remember meeting my highschool crush on the metro, a year or so ago. It has been a long time, so it was nothing more than a twinge, but I could still feel it. I thought of calling her, a few times. Weird.

The most annoying is when you feel love for someone you know is wrong for you or that has bad values, and that yet, you have the chance of "satisfying" your feeling. An example would be helping someone cheat on their significant other, but for me, if they cheat or lie on someone else, they might do the same to me, and it's a big "no-no" for me. But it can be tempting... And would ruin everything for me.

But oddly enough (or not), that's not what I was referring to in my post. I was just thinking of all the other feelings that cascade from the love. One doesn't just feel love for someone, and then when they're together, it comes up. No, it's lingering in the background all the time, cascading other feelings to remind one of it's presence, like missing that person, envy, or even jealousy.